Comparison Will Kill You

Comparison will be the death of me.

I am constantly looking at others and seeing what they have that I don't. The success of others, especially those my age or younger, makes me think that I'm not doing enough. The feeling of not doing enough leads to the idea that maybe I, myself, am not enough. I get jealous when people have the talents that I wish I had but do not posses. Although I am such an advocate for women empowerment and lifting each other up, I still compete with the girls around me in my mind. I still compare myself with every person I see. But instead of tearing the other person down, I make myself the victim and accept the unnecessary defeat.

I am writing to remind you, and mostly myself, that the presence of qualities in someone else is not the absence of qualities in yourself. She may be good at something, but hey, so are you! Everyone has something unique about them that sets them apart. Maybe they just haven't realized what it is yet.

Something that I am always telling myself is this: if God wanted me to be like that, then He would have made me that way. But He didn't. He made me who I am for a reason. I was made to be me and nobody else. There is no reason for me to compare myself to anyone else because I am not them, we are not the same. Can I be a better version of myself? Sure, of course! We all can. But does that mean I go and try to be a better version of someone else? Absolutely not because that is not who I am called to be.

The solution for killing comparison before it kills you is to be content with who God made you and the divine gifts He embedded in your being. No one else can be you. So be the best version of you to bring glory to the image of God. Longing to be someone else shows that you are not grateful for the work of art that God made you. Thinking that you are not good enough shows God that you don't think He did a good enough job in making you. See yourself from God's own eyes and know that you are wonderfully made and you are loved for who you are right at this exact moment. We are all at different stages of our journey. When you see that someone is ahead, rejoice with them and for them. Let it be an encouragement that you are able to do great things as well.

The only person you should ever compare yourself to is your past self. Be better than who you used to be. Thank God that we are capable of change.

"Together" by Michelle Borjon from Society6